More cushion, more pushin'?

So, ya know how there's that tired old stereotype that skinny girls get more action and heavy women are thirsty for lovin'?

Yeah, well it turns out it's not true! Fancy that - a weight-related bias that is actually totally unfounded!

You can thank researchers from the School of Medicine at the University of Hawaii and Oregon Health & Science University for Spam and beavers the news that a woman’s weight does not seem to affect her sexual behavior. As a matter of fact, overweight women were more likely to report having sex with men than women considered to be of “normal weight"...thus perpetuating the other rumor that chubby girls are easy.

Dr. Bliss Kaneshiro (this is real - not her porn name) wanted to study the impact of BMI on sexual behavior, seeing as how certain studies have suggested that obese/overweight women are at increased risk of becoming unintentionally pregnant (that would be as a result of contraceptive failure, sexual behavior or the frequency of intercourse.) But Kaneshiro found no significant difference; 92% of overweight women reported a history of sexual intercourse, as opposed to 87% of women with a normal BMI.

Another researcher involved in the study said the key takeaway from the study is that doctors and health care professionals should avoid making assumptions about sexual behavior based on outward appearances. “Some medical practitioners may not do appropriate follow-up with women who are overweight, they might assume they aren’t having sex unless they are told otherwise,” said Oregon State University professor Marie Harvey.

How sad is it that doctors need to be reminded of this? It's sad but true. We all make judgments based on looks and I bet some docs might assume, I dunno, a person confined to a wheelchair or a person with horrible acne doesn't need to be screened for STIs as vigorously as, say, a young women with breast implants wearing a short skirt and high heels. But Miss Sassypants might be a virgin while the guy in the wheelchair is hooking up left and right.

Just sayin'.

In other news, Twinkies are now being sold in 100-calorie snack packs. Will wonders never cease. You know what? I'm going to start selling homemade Rocky Road fudge in $5, 100-calorie snack packs. Sure, you need a microscope to locate the itsy bitsy teenie weenie sliver of fudge...but it's only 100 calories!! I shall be rich! (Cue evil, sinister laugh).

My question of the day (choose one):
1) Have you ever linked, subconsciously or not, a woman's weight and her sexual proclivities?
2) What food would you most like to see 100-calorie-snackpackified?

Comments

Is it horrible that my first thought upon reading this study is up to 13% of women have no sexual history? How is this possible?? Not that I think we're all baby making machines but to have no history at all... wow.

Ahem. As for your questions, 1) No, I cannot think of any occassion but that's because I think I spend relatively little time thinking about girl's sexual proclivities, fat or thin. 2) How about 100 cal snack packs of leafy green veggies? It would be, like, the size of a punching balloon. It so wouldn't fit in your purse but come on, it would be hilarious!

It is possible that I might have thought a dorky looking or over weight guy might not be getting a lot action in the sack...When it comes to women I don't think I have linked their weight to their sex lives as much as the way they carry their weight and how they make themselves look. Some thin women can look terribly unattractive while some bigger ladies might be able to carry it off really well and look sexy.

I would like to see real coca-cola in a 100 calorie can...100 calorie packs of cheese (these might already be out)...

I am a midwife and I have to say when I have cared for ladies with a BMI of 50+ I have started to wonder how on earth they got pregnant... I know thats bad! Its an awful thing to think, but if they have a caesarean we have to get extra people to hold their stomach back so the surgeon can get in, and other stuff thats pretty awful.

Hey Charlotte, some people are just really good at saying "no." :)

I think they should make 100 calorie snack packs of lettuce. Can you imagine the looks you'd get popping that open at your desk?

To me, I don't like the 100-calorie packs at all. Like the oddly named "fun size" candy bars, they're just "teaser bags". I consider 100 calories of Doritos a punishment. It only makes me want more, and I would have been better of avoiding it in the first place.

no.

steak.

I hang my head and admit I've often wondered how very very large people would have sexual intercourse (like people of the weight Bri is talking about) I swear if you strapped that much weight onto me and told walk up the stairs I wouldn't want to, so getting jiggy would hardly be top of my list of Things I Must Do Today. I know I should get shot down for thinking it, but really, it's scientifically a very difficult feat.

I would put 100 calorie packs of veggies next to all the 100 calorie packs of processed food so everybody could SEE how much more bang for their buck they could be getting. And so people would stop calling me greedy for eating salad out of a bowl the size of my own head.

TA x

1) Can't say I have, no. Then again, it's not like I go wandering through the streets looking at other women and wondering how healthy their sex lives are.

2) I'd love it if those 100 calorie packs of almond butter that they have with the whole grain rolls at Starbucks were available for purchase at the grocery store. I for one simply can't trust myself with a spoon and a whole jar of the stuff, so having it conveniently measured out for me so that there's no possible way of slipping up is a perfect solution.

1) Shamefully yes. It's the whole logistics of getting the pieces to fit that boggles me.

2) Peanut Butter!

Yes, I too have wondered about the logistics of very obese people, especially a couple where both parties are seriously obese. Partly (and sorry if this is TMI) it's because I remember when my ex-husband was pretty overweight (possibly bordering on the obese, as he's pretty short) and I was thin, and most of his weight was in his belly, and even then it was difficult and uncomfortable in certain ways.

As far as frequency, I just don't generally concern myself with others' sex lives too often.

100 calorie packs? Tortilla chips maybe, because it's about the only thing I can't handle in moderation. Once the bag is in front of me, I'm doomed. Tia Rosa extra thins especially.

hey everyone - thanks for your honesty and no need to feel shame. I'm not saying I'm perfect by any means, or that I've neevr thought about these kinds of stereotypes as being true. What's important is we realize they're NOT true.
Happy voting to all!

I'm all for the 100 calorie packs of veggies. It would be bigger than the bags o' lettuce they sell now!

I have to admit I have wondered in the past about the logistics of it with very obese people. But if we're talking thin vs. overweight people, then no, not really. I'd think the confidence factor would be more important than the weight itself.

I don't like those snack packs either. Because one is never satisfying and I end up eating several.

I understand all of your comments about an uber high BMI seeming difficult. But I'm struck my how much more sex appeal a curvy or even round woman has than some of the ridiculously thin ANTM (no offense to you lovahs of it) model types.

As for 100 calorie packs, what about a 100 calorie sized potato or sweet potato. That might be taking genetic engineering to a new high, but you asked!

Leslie, you continue to blow my mind with questions that I could never have possibly thought of on my own...

1)Um? Yes, I've wondered how very heavy people have intercourse comfortably. But I don't think I've thought "Gee, that person must not get any because they have some extra junk."
2)I can't think of anything that I want in a 100 calorie pack - but I know it ain't twinkies. Yech.

I want 100-calorie packs of PEANUT BUTTER!!! I hear they exist, but they are not at large. And I can't just eat one tablespoon, or two or three!!!

100 calorie packs of COOKIE DOUGH! I would buy the whole supply from my grocery store.

i dont know if it was meant to sound that way, but the tone is that overweight people are easy. perhaps overweight people are in more monogomous relationships, thus, they have sex more often. I dont think it has anything to do with a thirst for belonging or acceptance or love. Maybe they are luckier in love, because their partners are drawn to them more based on their personality traits then their looks, which last time i checked, is the key to a sucessful relationship.

trust me. I have A LOT of guy friends that try and force relationships with girls because they are pretty. and then we never see those young ladies again.

Kelly Turner
www.groundedfitness.com

There really IS 100 calorie packs of everything. Soon non-food companies will be jumping on the bandwagon too ("0 calorie packs!"). And no doubt they will make millions!

Interesting comments and ideas related to the sex/weight discussion... clearly its safest to assume that everyone is having lots of sex and needs to be tested regularly. :)

Uh...I had something thoughtful and insightful to post, but the picture of the Twinkie acted like Kryptonite on me. I soooo want a Twinkie!

(1) I guess so, but I never really think about it honestly.

(2) Good oatmeal cookies. Not the crappy crunchy kind of choc. chip. cookies that come in those nasto packets now!

1 - I really don't think about this.

2 - I wouldn't buy these (because of the overpricing) but it might be nice to have 100 calorie packs of cereal. I like to snack on dry cereal and once the box is open I am out of control. Darn you Fiber One Caramel Delight, Quaker Oat Squares and any flavor Chex!

Oh yeah, and then maybe my husband could see that a 1/3 box of Fruity Pebbles is not a serving of cereal.

I'll stick with the 100 calorie pack question today. My answer would be chocolate frosting! Yummy!

i am only going to comment on the brilliance of this entry.

it made my day.

On the subject of unexpected sex!

I am 400lbs, and yes I can have freaky monkey sex with my husband. I promise you, it's not THAT difficult. Or uncomfortable. Feels pretty good actually! I am sure there are some positions we can't get into, or can't maintain as long as we could if I was lighter or less bulky; but we've been able to kama sutra it up pretty darn well (hubby is 6'5", which helps.)

My mother is blind and disabled. In a wheelchair. EVERY TIME she and my dad come over to our place they have NOISY sex on my sleeper sofa. EW. Every time. I get that disabled people have sex, and if it was anyone other than my own parents I guess I wouldn't care. But just.... mom. Ew. We wear earplugs and try to shield the children.

One of my patients at work is a 90 year old woman with no hair, a hunch, and trouble keeping herself clean these days. She tells me she loves sex, talks about her lingerie collection, and how her husband hits it every night. Crazy.

So there you have it!!

Why?

I think this is probably about something noone has really addressed. Being a large woman, I have come to accept that my body does not look the way I want it to. I still have a sex drive and because I am lucky enough to be happily married, a willing partner. I think many thin people have a lot harder time accepting their bodies, even when they have bodies most people find attractive. So, they may have less sex drive and may be much less willing to share their bodies with a partner. It isn't that I don't care that my body isn't great but I am not giving up sex because of it. And I know my husband doesn't want to either.

I think it is all about your sex drive and how accepting you are of yourself, an honest about having a partner with whom you have mutual attraction. I have an atractive slender body and attract many partners, but there is only one guy I want to be with, so other men questing after me does not make me feel more sexual. No matter what your weight is, find the right partner(s) and you will have better sex.

Incorrect: More cushion, more pushin'?
CORRECT: More cushion for the pushin
Whether as an exclamation or question, if your going to quote the slang get the 911 on it first. A 'slang' phrase is not ment to be correct english, it is a slang. Whenever you get through! (another slang you have my 911 on it).

i agree with Barbie above...better sex only with the right partner, seek having mutual attraction no matter what...

Bri wrote:
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I am a midwife and I have to say when I have cared for ladies with a BMI of 50+ I have started to wonder how on earth they got pregnant... I know thats bad! Its an awful thing to think, but if they have a caesarean we have to get extra people to hold their stomach back so the surgeon can get in, and other stuff thats pretty awful.

Posted by Bri on November 04 at 06:31am
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I say SHAME ON YOU!! While your biases may be fine for YOUR head, you obviously have NO empathy or compassion for anyone who falls outside of a "normal" weight/size range. You need to get another profession. How bias of you to put your own predjudices on to a patient who is actually PAYING you for your services. Get out of the kitchen if you can't stand the heat of the fat girl's body. How absolutely horrible that, as a medical provider, you're allowed to practice AND get paid for services on folks you may not be attending to as you would an average sized person. It's appauling!

So many are ignorant when it comes to overweight people. I am overweight and I have a high sex drive and I have no problem getting it or doing it.
Also I agree with BBBabie above. I hope I never come into contact with a provider like you. And I'm sure your body is perfect right?
I had a c-section at 350lbs and I didn't even care that they had to hold my belly up to cut me, I just know I was scared, my baby wasn't breathing, and he was going to be out soon.
God bless you Bri and I hope you and others like you can open your mind and heart to get over your judgemental ways. Anyway I just wanted that out there for others to know. Fat people have feelings and we aren't perfect, just our imperfection is on the outside for all to see.